Life is too short. Things won’t change unless you do. Reach for the stars.
They’re all saying we hear all too frequently, but how often are we actually listening? While they might be clichés, they’re also very true. Some days you have to take a moment to seriously ask yourself: Am I happy? If the answer is no, then you need to do whatever it is to change it, because at the end of the day – it’s your life, nobody else’s.
Invest In Your Family/Friends
As you get older, though the highs are much higher, the lows are also lower – and you find that real life starts to occur and your biggest dramas go from losing your door keys to losing your family members. From having nothing to wear on a Saturday night, to having nothing to look forward to in life. From no money for another gram, to no money for your rent. It’s hard; and your family and friends are the ones that have been there from the start.
They’ll start to find this too – so while you need them to be there for you, it’s important to be there in return. You soon realise that getting baked and watching Take Me Out with your gurls/boys is a lot more fulfilling than spending three days awake while the endless drone of a pointless hag replicates rusty nails being shoved through your eardrum.
*Though, don’t write that off entirely, let’s keep perspective.
Quit Your Job
So much more than a means to earn money; you spend approximately eleven years at the place. If you don’t enjoy it, it’ll naturally grate on you; it’s a known fact that a dissatisfaction with your job/career is a huge contributor to depression. So you need to decide whether you want to spend your life doing something you’re not passionate about for a steady wage, or take your life by the balls, take a risk, take a jump and go chasing your dreams. Of course it’s scary, but nobody turned their whole life around by being coy. You’ll be surprised at how liberating it is, to pursue something you’ve always wanted.
Reassess Your Lifestyle
If you feel like you’re stuck in a social rut, throw that shit in a blender and mix it up. You wouldn’t eat the same food every day, so why go to the same bars every week? Let’s face it, the London gay scene can quite easily become a cycle of drugs, sex and self-destruct if you’re not careful. And while it’s a lot easier said than done, if you’re not content getting trashed every weekend or struggle to balance your partying with work, it’s time to get real with yourself.
Do you wanna be the ropey scene queen, still chasing the high through Chariots years down the line? Or do you have your sights set higher than that? I’m not saying we should all check into rehab (much less become boring cunts) – but if your lifestyle is obscuring your goals, it’s not your friend. Is it time to take the necessary precautions to ensure you aren’t flushing your life away?
The world is a big place; there’s always more to see and do, especially if you’ve lived in the same city your whole life. And if, as stated in the previous paragraph, you’re in a social rut – this could solve more than one of your problems. Not only is travelling/swapping cities like hitting the refresh button, but you never know who you’ll meet; a new career prospect, a future husband or another best friend. If your life was a book, would you want to read it? Do you want that basic born-bred-and-buried life? Or are you gonna carve out an adventure and experience things that the everyday person doesn’t?
Work On Your Health
Along with your career, your physical well-being contributes largely to how you feel in your headspace. A healthy body = a healthy mind – as they say. If you don’t feel satisfied with the way you look, it wreaks havoc with your self-esteem and in turn has a knock-on effect to your entire outlook on life.
There are countless benefits to catching the gym bug – and not just because it stops you from sitting around smoking weed all day. For example, you get the pure joy of watching an ex-shag’s mouth hit the floor as you sashay around Soho on Pride. *files nails* “Hey boo!”
And it might sound shallow, but when you have a good body – you feel like you can take on the world.
Remove All Negativity
You attract what you put out. Constantly feeling negative will only bring negativity back to you. By ridding the negative energy that surrounds you, better thing will come your way. That includes bad boyfriends, back-stabbing friends and boring bitches. Dump the drama in a bin bag and throw that shit as far as you can.